Happy not so Anniversary parents!!!

I think I understand why I am so picky about the guys I choose to date. It's because as much as I love my Daddy, I don't want a man like my Daddy. The things he does to my mom is just completely rude. I mean how many of you women DID NOT recieve anything from your husband for valentines? My mom hasn't recieved anything from him in years. She gets him stuff and I get him stuff and she recieves Nothing. How wrong is that? Christmas...He doesn't buy her anything. He comes home and sits in his one chair and exspects her to wait on him hand and foot. She will fix his plate and take it to him and then in return he will leave it sitting there until she comes back and gets it. He's never home. He works all the time. The only time he comes home is late at night to eat. He then eats and lays down on the couch and goes to sleep. Yep, they dont even sleep in the same bed. They have been married for almost 30 years today in fact ( i'm not sure the actual year, but heck this could be there big 30 year wedding anniversary today for all I know). They put in I was going to eat with them. We are going to a nice resturaunt and my daddy comes home and sits down and says wheres your mama at? I'm going like this and I was like what your in your work clothes, but oh well I'm just another woman whos talk goes through one of his ears and out his other. I dont see how my mother deals with being married to him. I know she is going to be very discouraged when she gets home because she is dressed up and he is a maintenance man and is going out to eat in his dirty work clothes. What the crap? Oh well..there's nothing more I can do. He is so rude. Am I wrong for not wanting to marry a man like him?? I mean am I awful for thinking these things about my daddy?? Its just with my brother and sister he was home all the time and then something went bad after I was born and now he's never home and he claims the bed hurts his back so he sleeps on the couch. I know theres more to it. I mean I'm not stupid. I just dont see how she does it. Plus he used to never cuss and now he works with these guys that ever word that comes out of there mouth is a cuss word and he has picked up on this and its awful. I cringe when I hear my daddy cuss cause its something I'm not used to.

Anyways, am I wrong for feeling bad for my Mama and not wanting to marry a guy that treats me like he has treated my Mama?? I feel bad for feeling that way, but I do.

*Well an update..my mama just got home and put him in his place and told him he WOULD change or they would be going NO where and would be eating sandwiches tonight and he hates to eat sandwiches, so he is currently changing.